What Is Integral Coaching?

Aug 27, 2020

I get this question a lot, so I wanted to give you a succinct answer to capture, at a high level, what Integral coaching is and why I think it's so powerful for bringing about real transformation.

There are many kinds of coaching, just like there are many kinds of therapy. Integral coaching is different from other forms of coaching because:

  1. Many schools of coaching are not grounded in a model of human development. Integral Coaching is based on a model of human...
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Systemic Racism and Inner Work: A Personal Inventory

Jul 06, 2020

It is now 6 weeks since the senseless killing of George Floyd.

Like many white people, I have been deeply impacted at the identity level by recent events and have struggled to know how to participate in the invigorated dialogue on racial justice. But I was inspired by W. Kamau Bell's interview with Conan, in which he encouraged white people to accept as a given that we will make mistakes. Better to act clumsily than not at all.

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How To Set New Years Resolutions That Actually Stick

Dec 30, 2019

New Year’s Resolutions are a time-tested tradition — and with the new decade upon us, the energy around them is even higher. But so often they fail and make you feel bad about yourself. This decade, let’s not do that.

As you consider new year’s resolutions (or new decade’s resolutions), here’s what to do.

1. Know what you’re giving up, not just what you’re adding

If your new year’s resolutions have to do with self-improvement (working...

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What Most Inner Work Retreats Don’t Do But Should

Nov 08, 2019

I had a question come up regarding my retreat methodology that I wanted to answer here. 

Why are there 2 group video calls before the retreat? Seems like a lot!

Great question.

As an Enneagram teacher, my goal is to give you a life-changing experience.

The 2 video calls are the secret ingredient that takes the retreat from really great to life-changing.

Why is that?

I’ve been to a LOT of retreats on “inner work.”

Most retreats are structured so...

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How To Love Your Type 8 Boss

Nov 03, 2019

I’m always talking about how the Enneagram is an incredible tool for self-awareness. 

But after watching some of the video testimonials from my Enneagram retreat last weekend, what really struck me was how much people loved learning about other people.  

(You can watch them too — I put them up on the description page for my upcoming Enneagram retreat.)

What people said reminded me of how learning the Enneagram caused a radical shift in the way I...

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What Do Therapists Do That We Don't?

Oct 20, 2019

I am fascinated by the question, “Why do people see therapists?” 

I mean — most of what you do with a therapist is talk. But we talk to our friends all the time. What gives? 

Let me first say — I am a huge proponent of therapy. I’m lucky to have a fantastic therapist that I have worked with on and off for 17 years. I am NOT dissuading anyone from seeing a therapist. I encourage it.

But have you ever stopped to wonder…

Why are most...

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What do you DO with the Enneagram?

Sep 22, 2019

“What do you DO with the Enneagram?”

I hear this question a lot from newcomers.

This is a really important question, and this post is meant to be a thorough answer. (I’ll assume that you know how to discover your Enneagram type, and that question is basically: “What do you do with the Enneagram after that?”)

But first, a point of clarification.

There is a field called ontology that studies how things exist. It sounds abstract, but it’s simple.

Consider: a...

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